So I’m on Tumblr browsing through my “dash” and a great concern has come to my attention.
So many girls out there are fanatic about this perfect love that exists. Love where you get spoiled, and your boyfriend kisses and hugs you non stop and everything is candy and butterflies.
That’s not love.
I’m a strong believer that when a couple initially starts dating they are in a honeymoon period. Gushy, mushy and all over each other. But that passes and the hard things come about.
Real love takes effort. Its hard and a full of roller coaster emotions. And its not always happy and wonderful. When you’re in a relationship you’re committing yourself to another person. Trusting them to be your other half. And that NEVER is something easy.
You have to be completely vulnerable, uncomfortably open and aware that this other person has every power to rip your heart out. To give yourself completely to a person strips you of this shied you put up. You are a unit. One. Partners.
Now, I’m not saying love is this terrible thing, or that you wont have your independance. But love is scary, and never doubt it for a second that its not. Its terrifying. But it is so worth it in so many ways. To have someone be completely honest with you every day, to tell you things you’re afraid to tell yourself is amazing. This person will be your best friend, your companion - and the feelings you have for them will overwhelm you with happiness.
But this fantasy that girls have that its easy and like a movie isn’t accurate. I was naive once and I got hurt terribly. Its fine to dream, but I wonder sometimes if people give up so easy now in marriage because they dont know that love is something you fight for.
Just my random rant.
i'm amy. i go to mcmaster u. i like all things that can make me laugh. i appreciate life and try my best to enjoy the ride. my blog represents meby the things i like, things that make me laugh and inspiration i find along the way.